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I got a big opportunity... but it means leaving everything behind.
Olivia says:I have a job offer that would mean a 30% pay rise but moving to a city where I know no one. My current job is comfortable but I'm bored. I keep flip-flopping and my partner is sick of me.
The answer might already be inside you.
Olivia, the fact that you keep flip-flopping tells me you already sense this is a significant decision and it is. But I'd gently push back on the idea that you need to keep agonising over it.Both options have a cost. Staying costs you growth and the version of yourself that wants more. Going costs you comfort and the familiar. Neither is free. The question is which cost feels more worth it to you.Boredom in a comfortable job has a slow, quiet way of dimming people over time. A 30% pay rise and a new city is uncomfortable, yes, but discomfort and the wrong choice are not the same thing.Your partner being tired of the conversation is understandable, but this is your life and your career. Take the time you need to feel into it, just don't use indecision as a way of avoiding a choice you've probably already made somewhere inside.And once you've made your decision, share it with your partner properly. Not to get approval but just to close the loop on something that's clearly been weighing on you both.Wishing you the best,
Chelle x
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